8 Steps to Embracing Your True Essence

8 Steps to Embracing Your True Essence

I am participating in #BLOGCHATTERA2Z YEAR 2025 &  Blogging from A to Z Challenge! At my core, I have a distinct mix of qualities, values, and beliefs that shape my identity. This is my true self-the genuine version of me that sometimes gets buried under societal pressures,(young widow) past experiences, and the urge to fit in. I see it like a flower’s essence—its unmistakable scent, striking colours, and delicate form. My true essence is that inner spark, the authentic soul that defines who I truly am. Here are 8 Steps to Embracing Your True Essence.

The Journey to Self-Acceptance

For years, I struggled with the need to fit in, to be what others expected of me. I adapted, adjusted, and shrank parts of myself to avoid judgment. But the more I tried to blend in, the more disconnected I felt. It took me a long time to realise that true happiness comes from embracing who I am, without filters or apologies.

Self-acceptance isn’t about perfection—it’s about recognising my strengths, acknowledging my struggles, and owning my story. It’s about stepping into my power, not because I have it all figured out, but because I deserve to take up space just as I am.

Breaking Free from Expectations

We grow up absorbing expectations-what to wear, how to behave, what success should look like. These unspoken rules shape us, sometimes at the cost of our authenticity. I spent years measuring myself against these external standards, and it left me exhausted.

Letting go of these expectations wasn’t easy. I had to ask myself: Am I living for myself or performing for others? The minute I stopped seeking validation from the outside world, I found something deeper—my voice, dreams, and path.

8 Steps to Embracing My True Essence

Owning my true self wasn’t an overnight transformation. A series of small, intentional steps led me closer to who I was meant to be. Here’s what helped me:

• 1. Rewriting My Inner Narrative: I used to tell myself I wasn’t enough- smart enough, talented enough, bold enough. But I realised these were just outdated beliefs that didn’t serve me. I started shifting my mindset, focusing on what made me unique instead of what made me fit in. Over time, this shift empowered me to accept myself fully.

• 2. Seeking Internal Validation: For too long, I sought approval from others, measuring my worth through their opinions. But I learned that true confidence comes from within. I began trusting my own judgment, making decisions that aligned with my values rather than external pressures. The more I validated myself, the less I needed external approval.

• 3. Doing What Lights Me Up: Passions often take a backseat to responsibilities. I had to remind myself that doing what I love isn’t a luxury- it’s a necessity. Writing, storytelling, and expressing myself creatively have always been my outlets. When I made space for them, I felt more like myself than ever before. At 57, I started wearing dresses, showing off my dainty feet, feeling liberated, finally. I go for shows all by myself. Walked the ramp for a saree and jewellery brand at 60.

• 4. Setting Boundaries: Saying no is difficult for me. I feared disappointing people. But I learned that protecting my time, energy, and peace wasn’t selfish—it was self-care. Every time I set a boundary, I reinforced my worth. Bending over backwards to help others write an invitation, a speech, or even just an introduction.

8 Steps to Embracing Your True Essence

• 5. Responding Instead of Reacting: When faced with criticism or challenges, I used to take it to heart, often feeling hurt or defensive. But I’ve learned to pause, reflect, and respond with clarity. Instead of letting emotions control me, I ask myself, What is this moment teaching me? This shift has allowed me to grow rather than feel defeated.

• 6. Living with Gratitude: Instead of focusing on what I lacked, I started appreciating what I had: lessons, growth, and resilience I had built over time. Gratitude helps me see my journey in a new light, reminding me that every experience, even the difficult ones, shaped me into the person I am today.

• 7. Embracing Nature: I immerse myself in nature whenever I can. Whether I’m strolling through a park, trekking up a mountain trail, or simply relaxing in my garden under the warm sun, these moments help me feel balanced and deeply connected to myself.

• 8. Cultivating Positivity: I choose to be around people who uplift and inspire me. I welcome those who encourage my growth and authenticity while keeping my distance from negativity and toxic energy.

Thriving in My Skin

Owning who I am has been the most liberating decision of my life. It’s not about having everything figured out- it’s about showing up as my authentic self, flaws and all. When I stopped trying to be someone else, I finally felt at home in my skin.

If you’re on a similar journey, know this: You are already enough. You don’t need permission to be yourself. The world needs your unique light—shine it unapologetically.

Reflection Questions:

• What parts of yourself have you been holding back?
• How can you start embracing your true self today?
• What brings you joy, and how can you make more space for it?

I’d love to hear your thoughts- share your journey in the comments below!

The A2Z List

1. Awakening-Ignite your Spark
2. Bloom Bravely-Choose Courage & Self-love
3. Clear Mental Clutter for Growth
4. Rise with Determination