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Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression

The D word -Depression

Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression

At the outset, Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression is my way of reaching out to all those suffering people who are clueless about how to tackle it. Additionally, if you are suffering from depression then you should know how to beat the blues. I am sharing most of the things I do to beat them; I suffer from chronic depression and I am facing it as best as I can singlehandedly. Certainly, a very sensitive and taboo topic in India, depression is still swept under the carpet. Even highly educated and affluent families would rather hide it like a skeleton in the cupboard rather than seek help. Regardless, depression per se is a difficult thing to deal with, but it is not impossible to overcome.

To continue, I do not know why there is shame and stigma attached to it when research says, one in every four people suffer from anxiety and depression. I see people around me in anguish, and their families feel ashamed about it, which is so sad. Actually, a depressed person needs support and understanding.

Peace comes from within

Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression;-Peace comes from within do not seek it without

Gautama Buddha or Siddhartha, as he was named by his parents, was said to have seen an old man, a diseased man, a decaying corpse, and other sufferings, and in a small period of time became deeply depressed by these sights. He left home at age 29 and began his journey to seek answers to suffering. At 35, he attained Enlightenment and became known as Buddha, after 49 days of meditating under the Bodhi tree. Thus, one of the world’s greatest antidotes to the suffering of depression was born. Empathy and the truth about suffering were his major antidotes to depression and misery—antidotes for himself and for others.

Although we have this great legacy of Gautama Buddha, most Indians, have no understanding of the word, empathy, although we are quick with our sympathy. Is it too difficult to put yourself in the shoes of another person and feel what they are going through?

Kudos to Deepika Padukone

My kudos to Deepika Padukone( famous Bollywood actress), for coming out of the ‘closet ‘and going public with her illness. Surprisingly, I am no fan of her acting prowess, but I admire her guts; believe me, it’s not easy and hats off to her for venting her heart out openly. Yes, many sceptics must be thinking it is all a publicity stunt and someone like Deepika who has everything going for her cannot be depressed!

But hey you ignoramuses, depression can affect anyone. It doesn’t discriminate between the rich and the poor. And yes, she has got over it coz her mom understood her and she got timely medical help. She is just trying to raise consciousness about an issue of which many of us are oblivious and I really wish I could start a campaign. Even if it helps a couple of people, am sure it would be worth it. More power to you Deepika! On the whole she has managed to inspire more people to come out and seek the help they need and deserve.

Depression is an Illness |Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression

Depression is an illness

Our culture gives much importance to will power and mental toughness (especially in men, who are not allowed to shed a tear) and is quick to label anyone who falls back as a spineless whiner. But people who have clinical depression are not sluggish or simply feeling sorry for themselves. Depression cannot be wished away. It is an illness like we have a fever that affects our body it is related to changes in the brain. Like other illnesses, it should be treated as well and it improves with proper treatment. Depression, unfortunately, is not taken seriously because it is not considered a serious condition, due to lack of awareness. Depression is real and it can ruin one’s life and even worse…kill.

What is depression and how does a person feel?

Depression is of two types-mainly situational and clinical. Failure is a huge factor for a situational type of depression, whether it is a game of sport, education, work or loss in the game of love. Failure makes you tend to feel helpless and lose faith in yourself, everybody and everything. It allows the negative thoughts to take over and to believe that things will never get better, no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to change. You are sucked right back down into a vortex of gloominess and pessimism. But this should not be seen as the end of the road. A few simple changes can get you back on track and on your way to feeling better again.

The Villain

The villain in most cases is the rat race and the ravenous greed for material comforts and competition at school or at work have become difficult to handle and result in a brief or long spell of depression. The institution of marriage has also transformed a lot and instead of being a support system, is now becoming a cause for breaking people down, mentally.

Postpartum Depression

Many new moms experience the “baby blues” after childbirth. I suffer from chronic depression myself, which initially started off as postpartum depression after my son was born and it took me a long while to speak about it but once I did, it has been therapeutic. Postpartum depression or any kind of depression can affect any mom; rich or poor, young or old, fat or thin, beautiful or ugly, healthy or not. Sometimes it’s just a complication of giving birth. If you have postpartum depression, do not hesitate to get treatment as it can help you manage your depression and let you enjoy your motherhood. I was extremely underweight when I conceived and I had a very traumatic C-section. But the silver lining was that my baby was very healthy and beautiful and warmed the cockles of my heart.

New Moms Are Depressed

Temporary postpartum depression normally includes mood swings and crying spells that fade quickly. But some new moms like me, experience a more severe, long-lasting form of depression known as postpartum depression. Rarely, a severe form of postpartum depression known as postpartum psychosis can develop after childbirth.

Symptoms of depression after childbirth may vary, depending on the type of depression. In Postpartum depression, the signs and symptoms are stronger and longer-lasting, eventually interfering with your ability to care for your baby and handle other daily chores which seemed quite simple before.

My Story

I gave birth to my son thirty years ago, when there was no Google or handy books to get info about anything, leave alone, depression. I just turned 20, was clueless about all the new changes and found it very difficult to cope with the thought that an optimistic and gregarious, cheerful person like me could become this pessimistic, introverted, weepy, weak and scared person, I had turned into. Nobody in my family or friends had any clue as to what was ailing me. I shunned company and any outside contact. Prayers did help a bit, but I had no medical help or counselling and this continued for a painful six months after which I started the slow journey back to normalcy.

This period was traumatic; relating childbirth to my condition, I shunned the thought of having another baby, but as they say, time is the best healer and I had a daughter after 5 years. This time, I thought I was prepared for any eventuality and had a comfortable C-section. All was well for the first 15 days and then the depression monster rammed into me with full force. I was back to square one; So much for the bravado of being ready and armed. But thanks to my well-read brother, I got medical help this time and enough support from my husband, resulting in faster recovery. If you leave it untreated, postpartum depression may last for months.

Chronic Depression

This depression became chronic in the following years and my doc said it was due to chemical imbalance during my first delivery. He gave me medication that I have been taking since almost 25 years and it does work (I am on steroids, so I put on weight, but still it is a small price to pay to be free of depression). Depression is a treatable condition. The sooner you get help, the sooner you’ll be fully equipped to enjoy your baby.

Postpartum depression may appear at first like you are incompetent as a new mom but gradually you the symptoms will become stronger and even mundane tasks for the baby will appear like a huge hurdle.

Depression symptoms may include:

  • Severe mood swings
  • Frequent headaches, cramps, digestive problems
  • Devastating fatigue
  • Shying away from family and friends
  • Thoughts of self-harm
  • Difficulty bonding with baby
  • No appetite
  • Insomnia
  • Extreme irritability and anger
  • Loss of interest in sex
  • Lack of joy in life
  • Feelings of shame, guilt, worthlessness, and being scared

Anyway, my main purpose in writing this is to make people realize that it can hit anybody any-time. Do not despair because if you are aware and well-armed with support from your family and friends and medical help, you can fight it off and emerge victorious. I first spoke about it openly during a workshop, my Bookwormz girl pals conducted on Louise L Hay’s Heal Your Life- http://www.louisehay.com/affirmations/ (try it, it works)

Here are a few tips that will help you to get out of your gloomy mood and embrace life once again.

  1. The first step towards recovery is acceptance: Accept that you are depressed and only then will you be able to take the arduous path to recovery. So take this positive step first. Denial is the most detrimental and common problem. People are not ready to accept that they are depressed and need help.
  2. Secondly, seek help from those around you, either friends or family members. You need a support group, so share with them, what you are going through, and ask for their help. Simultaneously, do not forget to seek help from a professional psychiatrist as well, to help you out of your depression. In India, depressed people are akin to the mad and so most people with their inane misconceptions avoid approaching a medical professional. So don’t waste time. If you think you need help, contact a psychiatrist at the earliest.

You Can!

  1. Avoid mulling over things: Understand that success and failure are normal parts of life, and you need to learn to take them in your stride. After any failure, do not keep pondering about it continuously. Try to divert your mind to other things in your life and learn to move on. Remember failure is the stepping stone to success.
  2. Set small goals for yourself to get back your confidence. Don’t lose the spirit to bounce back. These goals should be simple and achievable in the short term. For example, you would take a shower first thing in the morning. When you achieve this small task, you get a feeling of confidence and then set another goal and so on.
  3. Set a routine and stick to it. If you are fighting depression, try to get into a regular routine. I have learned that it helps to erase negative thoughts from the mind and instils a sense of purpose.
Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression; Eat Healthy

6. Firstly, a healthy diet: You may have lost your appetite because of depression, but then do not skip meals or go the other extreme of binge eating. A healthy body results naturally in a healthy mind. Although there is no specific diet that works for depression per se, a healthy diet can be part of the overall treatment. Eat healthy with plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains to improve your physical and emotional health. Choose foods that alleviate your mood like banana or chocolate.

Love Yourself

7. Research says that omega-3 fatty acids and vitamin B12 may ease the mood changes that are part of depression. For instance, fatty fish such as salmon and low-fat dairy products contains omega-3 fatty acids. Vegetarians can take flaxseed, nuts, soybeans, and dark green vegetables, cereals and of course, supplements. My doc says that Serotonin,(maybe my bête noire ) a brain chemical that enhances the sense of well-being becomes less and that may lead to a bout of a panic attack. I munch on light carbs like, mashed potatoes, radish, carrot, popcorn, fruit, and whole grains that provide fibre and help create serotonin.

Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression-sleep well

Smile!

8. Get adequate sleep- Inadequate sleep and oversleeping are both symptoms of depression. Nevertheless, avoid both extremes and get into a regular pattern of sleep. Remember, it is not the number of hours you sleep, but the quality of sleep that counts. Subsequently, some people with depression sleep a lot (like an escape from reality) while most find it difficult to sleep. Once you are on the road to recovery from depression, follow good sleep habits. Set a routine by sleeping at a fixed time and waking up at the same time every morning. Try relaxation techniques to help fall asleep. A night of good sleep will make you feel better physically and mentally.

9. Medical research claims that exercise is a powerful weapon to fight mild or moderate depression, as it is said to release endorphins which are mood elevators. Exercise helps in inducing good sleep, boost energy and even self-esteem. It doesn’t have to be Zumba dancing classes or a high powered workout in a gym; it could be anything from simple household work or a walk in the park to start with. This Yoga Nidra below works great for me. Just lie in bed and follow the instructions which will calm you down and lull you to sleep.

Have Faith

10. A social support network can be a very helpful tool to overcome this depression. It could be your own friend circle or even an online support group. Joining a book club (like I did) or taking classes at your neighbourhood NGO can help you connect with people on a regular basis. Likewise, staying connected with other people helps overcome the sluggishness, fatigue, and loneliness of depression to help you stay on track!

11. Hobbies would help you feel positive about life and yourself. Explore any avenue you like to explore your feelings and express what’s on their mind. Being creative can help you feel better. However, you do not have to become a Picasso or a Shakespeare but just do something that gives you pleasure. Abraham Lincoln, like other famous people like Winston Churchill and Mark Twain, who suffered from depression, used humour as an antidote to depression. Lincoln, related jokes and funny stories to lift his spirits. Famous people found their own effective antidotes to their depression; like humour, writing, dancing, painting, work, exercise, emotional and loving relationships, compassion, courage, friend and family support, relaxation and travel, and metamorphic thinking and wisdom. Mine are writing, gardening, cooking and my best therapy are my grandsons.

Keep a Journal

12. Stress and panic can increase your symptoms and make it really difficult to recover. The best way to come out of a panic attack is controlled breathing. Agreed, it is not easy but if you try it with a family member or a close friend who could instruct you to breathe in and out for a few minutes, the anxious feeling could pass. Learning to mentally relax can help restore your frayed nerves into calmness. You might consider a yoga or meditation class; like I do.

Stay positive

13. Don’t shut off people who love you. If you let them in, they will only help you feel better. Call a friend and go for coffee or watch a movie together. Talking about your depression actually makes you feel better. Also, express yourself and your feelings and spew out all your frustration. A patient ear could be your pill to recovery. Moreover, a depressed person just needs someone who can listen and is not seeking advice. Positive support can help you get rid of the negative thoughts that have made a home in your mind

14. Medication is necessary if the depression is long term or clinical; because antidepressants affect the levels of brain chemicals, such as serotonin. They take a few weeks to take effect and do keep regular appointments with your doctor who will keep evaluating you and adjust the dosage according to your recovery. Do not lose hope if one medicine doesn’t work, as there are many options these days. Surely, the combination of therapy and medication will surely yield results.

Although, recurrence is a possibility, following the treatment you’ve chosen and tuned your lifestyle to stay as healthy as possible would fortify your mind.

Andreas-Lubitz

Not long ago, German wings co-pilot Andreas Lubitz, reportedly crashed a plane into the French Alps killing 150 people last week, was suffering from depression. Creating greater awareness about the disorder is the need of the hour and it is time to wake up and face reality.

Every Dark Night Has a New Dawn

Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression; Every Dark Night Has a New Dawn

And for all you normal people out there- please respond positively to pleas for help from a family member or friends. Do not ignore a frantic message or call for help or even a melancholic or fatalistic status on a social networking site. DO NOT ignore these frantic cries for help; just be there for them as you could be saving a life or lives!

Call for Help!

A couple of years ago, I sent out a message for help on Whatsapp and no one responded, I would have killed myself hadn’t it been for my guardian angel friend, who lives far away and just called out of the blue. She just heard my voice and asked me to come to her city for therapy and I was clutching at straws and this straw helped me from drowning. I went to Mumbai, lived in Moushmi, my friend’s house, took the Axis Bars Therapy and I was fine and back home in ten days! Yes, she saved my life, you can too if you respond to pleas of help.

Reach Out

Subsequently, if you are suffering from depression and want to beat the blues, do ping me anytime and I will be there for you. I am quite a good counsellor and could help you get out of this miserable feeling. Finally, it is up to you. You have to choose between Hope and despair.

Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression;  Choose between Hope and Despair

If you want to read a bit more of my postpartum experience click here.

I bet you never knew that toddlers also go through anxiety. If you are interested to know read Arushi’s Six Tips to Handle Anxiety in Toddlers.


15 thoughts on “Healthy Ways to Cope with Depression #BlogChatterA2Z”

  1. Good to read about your journey. I moved to another country with my 10 months old twin daughters and husband just a week after my father passed away. A new country where I was an alien, so many chores and responsibilities, kids, household, and a work from home full time job. Finally I went into depression. For a year I was in a very bad shape. I couldn’t afford to mourn and cry as it would affect my daughter’s so I had to get up and show up everyday. And then blogging happened to me. That’s why I call myself a blogger by chance coz i never thought of writing before. Penning down my thoughts for my father worked as a catharsis to me and this played a big role in overcoming depression. Long story so would end here 😊

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    • Thanks, Vartika…we get to learn lots from every journey. I am sorry to hear about your depression. Mine has been an arduous journey and every episode leaves me drained at first and then raring to go. Penning down your thoughts is very therapeutic.I hope u have a supportive family and take help. I was clueless and in despair but my husband was very supportive. When he died, I had no time to be depressed or mourn as I had the kids to support. Life has gone by like this but no regrets. Have you noticed that after depression you are rejuvenated and raring to go? I do not mind long stories, I am a very good listener. If ever you want to share or reach out please do. I help many people online. God Bless! #blogchatterA2Z

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  2. Depression is a problem. Even people with money and fame also suffer from it. May be those who are not blessed with money, have to work hard and may not have time to think. Diagnosis of depression is a real problem. We do not believe we have a problem. Many a time society thinks this is yet another drama. But once a diagnosis is made there are drugs that may be helpful.

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    • Yes, Abhijit. It has reached epidemic condition but still, we do not want to face the truth. It is staring us in the face but we turn a blind eye. I lost my husband 15 years ago and that was when I stepped out to look for work at the age of 40 and I have been battling out singlehandedly and now I think I have cracked the code so to speak after so many years of depressive episodes. I do panic but I am able to control the intensity.#blogchatterA2Z

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